The lessons of Spring

We don’t need to wait for the Spring Equinox at 3:28 AM on Monday March 20th to benefit from the lessons spring has to offer us. Last week while sitting in session with a client, a baby bird tried to fly into my office, not knowing a clear window was not open space. It was a baby bird with so much to learn. No matter what our age, we too have lessons to learn every day if we are open to what life has to offer us.

The lesson I’m taking from this spring is to accept transitions and the holding of opposites. In the midst of storms and flooding, rain and cold, we also have days of sunshine. When I go for a walk I can feel the sun on my face at the same time that I feel the brisk cold that requires me to wear my scarf and rub my hands together to warm them.

We are in the transition of leaving winter behind and welcoming spring time. We are experiencing them together. It is similar to my experience yesterday at a funeral and memorial for my good friend’s father. Grief and tears were experienced at the grave site just as smiles, hugs and laughter were shared at my friends home afterwards. Springs’ lesson for me yesterday was to be aware how endings and beginnings are intimately intertwined. When I grieve for someone or something I must remember to also celebrate what will be coming.

It had been 15 years since I had seen some of my high school friends. We all left with plans to rekindle our friendships. What a great example of life coming from death.

On my morning walk today I noticed green leaves pushing through the hard adobe soil here in Northern California. I took a photo of it to share with you because it reminded me of the tenacity of life. We are not promised an easy, care-free life, but I could almost hear those green sprouts saying, “You can do it!”

There are a number of people taking our 7 Self-Love Diet Food and Eating Guidelines e-course. This week we are asking them to let go of their old beliefs about food and diets and are inviting them to learn new skills that require a mindfulness and honoring of their bodies wisdom vs. following external cues. It can be challenging for people who have lived with certain food and eating rules to let them go entirely and begin a new way of relating to food and eating. This is where the lesson of spring and it’s focus on transition can be a great teacher. Our e-course participants will have a time when they will be holding both their old food rules and categories as well as the new invitation to listen to their bodies wisdom when making food choices. This is a very tangible example of the holding of opposites and transitions.

As a country we are definitely in transition. What ever side of the political divide you are on, Spring has lessons for you.

The Self-Love Diet invites us all to regularly offer ourselves love. In any given moment we have the opportunity to create the changes in our lives that we desire. Spring helps us to remember that change doesn’t usually happen in a magical moment, but rather over time and with an earnestness to match those green shoots pushing up through the hard soil. As we transition from old beliefs and behaviors into the new creations we are becoming, we can mindfully choose to love ourselves in any given moment.

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet Journey,

Michelle Minero MFT and Emelina Minero


What is Self-Love?

 

Self-Love is the red dot on the map that shows you where you are, who you are, and guides you to the center of yourself.
Self-Love is divine.
Self-Love is the catalyst for love and healing of our planet and people.
All change comes from within. It starts with us and spreads slowly, one moment, one decision, one conscious, gracious action on behalf of another, at a time.
Loving ourselves is a political statement.
Learning who we are, what we believe, and then speaking up is our divine birthright.
Action comes next and this is where the power comes for change. The action doesn’t have to be big. Sometimes a forgotten kindness, a moment of pause, a smile given and received is enough to turn a life on it’s axis for the greater good, forever.
Self-Love is a prayer of thanksgiving, thanking God for this miraculous gift of life and the body, soul and mind to live out our purpose.

What is Self-Love to you? 

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet Journey,

Michelle Minero

This self-love post was inspired by a 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge prompt. Join us, and make self-love your New Year’s resolution this year!

Self-Love Diet To-Do-List

 

I’m used to having a to-do list. It usually is much longer than I would ever advise my clients to have. My lists have urgent, important, and important but not urgent categories.
The last category can get very long and stay on my to-do list for a long time! Although my lists help me organize myself, and keep me accountable to others, I find that my lists also can invite feelings of overwhelm and worry.

I keep paper, pencils and pens by my bedside table so when I remember things just as I’m falling asleep, I can write them down.

Having a Self-Love Diet To-Do List is a way of me taking this sometimes anxiety provoking behavior, and making it be about loving myself!

I just looked at the Self-Love Diet list from 2015 that was a compilation of 63 loving behaviors shared by my clients, workshop and past participants in the 31 Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge. http://www.lovewarriorcommunity.com/self-love-diet-writing-prompt-day-6-compile-list-self-love-actions-one-today/ I will choose one from that list for today.

Since today is a stormy day, with flooding and 40 mile an hour winds, I am staying home. That in itself could be considered a SLD action. However, I am choosing to add soaking in my bath tub with bath salts. I will light candles and revel in self love!!!

I look forward to reading your Self-Love Diet list of loving actions.

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet Journey,

Michelle Minero

This self-love post was inspired by a 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge prompt. Join us, and make self-love your New Year’s resolution this year!

The Gift of Self-love

This morning I woke up with a laundry list of things I needed to do that weighed me down. On top of all of this, my daughters really need extra support these days.

I felt my daughters’ needs taking precedent over mine, and I began to feel overwhelmed. I wanted to be there for them and my grandchildren. I realized the underlying emotion I was feeling was actually guilt.

How could I say no to helping a daughter of mine and then go to the gym and take a class when she needed my support?

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I wrote all the things down I needed to accomplish in my calendar to help me prioritize my day. I noticed that some of the things that felt urgent really weren’t, and other things, like taking time for myself, were just what I needed.

My inner wise woman kept telling me, “Go for a walk instead of the gym. You’ll enjoy the sunshine, and it will help you feel better.” My mind kept saying, “You’ve got too much to do. Get going.”

Before proceeding with my day, I decided to read my Building the Foundation for Self-love e-course prompt for this morning. I was reminded about the importance of taking care of myself in order to better take care of others. I asked myself, “What would love do?” The answer for today was, “Go for a walk in the sunshine before you begin all of the things on your to-do list.

I chose love in the form of a walk at Shollenberger Park. The sun was shining on the water like diamonds. The air was crisp and cold, and my body loved the feel of stretching with each step. I shared my expanding energy of love with each person I passed by smiling and offering a greeting.

It never ceases to amaze me how much I need my own advice! Taking my own e-course is such a gift! Taking the time to consciously pay attention to my emotions and choose a loving action will be my continued gift to myself this month.

I know the month of December is probably filled to the brim for you. Still, I ask you to add one more thing on your to-do-list. Add the gift of self-love. Choose you first and I promise it will help with all the other stuff. It could be as easy as asking yourself, “What would love do?”

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet journey

Michelle Minero, MFT

Will You Let Fear Dictate How You Live?

I recently attended a women’s conference, G3 (Gather, Grow, and Go) in beautiful Sonoma County. Kristina Kuzmic, a parenting YouTube vlogger, was one of the speakers. She told her story of going back to Croatia to play the piano at her cousin’s wedding.

The day of the wedding, bombing broke out. The bakery, florist shop, and reception hall were closed and the musicians cancelled. Everyone was fearful and taking cover.

The bride and groom moved forward with their plans for their wedding that day! The church was still open. Kristina could still play the piano. The guests brought baked goods to replace the wedding cake, and amidst the bombs, a celebration was had!

After the wedding, they went into the basement of the church instead of the reception hall and continued their celebration amongst booming explosions. They raised the volume of the music and danced through the night.

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Since it was not safe to go outside, all the guests slept together in that church basement and woke up together with the bride and groom on their first day as a married couple.

Love was more powerful than fear for all of those who attended.

The Love Warrior Community is a group of people committed to choosing love over fear. In practicing the Self-Love Diet, we have redefined the word diet to mean “things regularly offered,” and we choose to regularly offer ourselves a diet of love.

What metaphorical bombs do you currently have in your life? How are they holding you back, what messages do they have for you, and how can you navigate through your fear?

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet Journey,

Michelle Minero